Does anyone else have a master tantrum thrower? A child who has studied the art of the tantrum?
I do and his name is Isaac.
Isaac is performing quite a dynamic tantrum right now.
With dramatic pauses and everything!
Lots of crescendos using a piercing shriek, right down to a quiet pathetic little whimper.
Then comes the kicking the floor and groaning.
Add in some more screaming, writhing, and thrashing. Yes, he’s got this whole tantrum thing down to performance art.
I usually wait for the silence that comes with defeat. He’s not one to admit defeat easily so this could take a while. Strong-willed, this one, and dedicated to his art. So until the calm down begins, I’m just rockin’ out to the dulcet tones of his glass shattering shrieks and am reflecting on the art of throwing a tantrum.
Tantrums are a part of life with little guys, as we all know. I try to let them run their course as long as they’re at home, (though I usually insist they perform in their room, away from those who are acting civilized.) Might as well get all that negative energy out, so that when the alien in possession of my sweet child’s body realizes nothing good can come from this, my loveable offspring will be open to reason. And I realize he’s gotta get all that emotion out somehow since he’s highly unlikely to articulate his feelings in an eloquent complaint.
Lately, the source of nearly every outburst is Isaac’s skewed definition of “mine.” According to the law of 3 year olds, it goes something like this:
“What’s mine is mine, what’s yours is mine, what I might play with in the future is mine, what I’ve played with at any point in the past is mine, whatever I’ve ever touched is also mine, as is anything I might ever touch someday.”
If you have young children, you know this definition well.
And I’ll admit, I’m impressed by the dedication end effort Isaac puts into his trantruming. I love that when he starts something, he does it to the very best of his ability. Of course, I wish he’d use this trait in a more constructive manner, but it’s nice to know he’s got determination and conviction, one day it will be very admirable. For now, I’ll just let his tantrum play out and hope that he chooses to put his energy into a new form of performance art…like sharing. Hey, I can dream, can’t I?
Do you have a champ tantrum-er?
How do you usually handle it?