Speaking of influence, Jezebel became addicted to the power and influence she wielded over her husband and also the nation. And like the evil influences she allowed in her life, her influence became a weapon of wickedness.
“There was never a man like Ahab, who sold himself to do evil in the eyes of the Lord, urged on by Jezebel his wife. He behaved in the vilest manner by going after idols” (1King 21:25) Urged on by Jezebel his wife.
Once they were married, Ahab adopted the ways of his wife in worshiping Baal. Ahab was most definitely a wicked man and Jezebel used his weaknesses to her advantage.
Jezebel lacked the supportive, sympathetic, and loving qualities one might look for in a spouse. When Ahab didn’t get his way, instead of supporting him by cheering him up or suggesting finding a different vineyard, she mocked him for being so weak and laughed at him for behaving in such a childish way. And then, she just took over, pushed him to the side and used all that influence and power she had acquired to orchestrate the murder of the vineyard’s owner and acquisition of the vineyard for him. She literally ruled over her husband and made him feel insufficient and incompetent. What Jezebel did encourage in Ahab was a penchant to do evil and wickedness. Oh Jezebel! If only you had used your intelligence, passion, and determination for the Lord instead of for evil!
Wives should influence husbands by building them up when they are feeling weak and encouraging their endeavors (assuming they are legal and in line with God’s word as opposed to Ahab’s ideas.) A wife’s influence shouldn’t be underestimated or taken for granted. As you can see by Jezebel, influence is powerful and can be used for wicked purposes if we’re not careful. Let’s instead take the attitude that God has placed us to be help mates to our husbands, lifting them up to the Lord in prayer, speaking life into their lives so they can be strong, confident leaders not just of their families, but also within their communities and workplace. Let’s influence for Christ!
Ladies, no matter how we may feel, we do influence everyone around us. We can build up, speak life, and encourage or we can mock, tear down, and destroy. It’s entirely up to you. The influences you allow in your life affect how you influence others. Our influence can have far reaching arms through those around us. We can build our husbands and children up so they can go off to work and school and stand strong, succeed, and be an encouragement to others.
Don’t for one moment think that your choice of how you speak and act doesn’t matter. Your influence is far reaching into the lives of your husband, your children, and all of those with whom you come into contact. Allow Jesus’ influence in your life so that your influence on others will point them towards God’s love and grace.
(1 Kings 16, 18, 21 & 2 Kings 9)